I think it's a mash-up of both. It depends on your personal preference... a lot of guys are, at the risk of being rude, uncouth to say the least. They're horny, lonely and just want to release even if it means acting like a caveman. Others are more thoughtful in their approach and understand...
I really love Fallout: New Vegas and Fallout 4. The world of those games are so interesting to me, I play them a lot. I also enjoy Elder Scrolls games as well like Skyrim. The appeal of huge worlds and freedom to explore and ability to mod nearly anything into them really draws me.