Oh Dear, I am ever so sorry to hear about your plight, you deserve more than what he is giving you, as for getting yourself " beautified", and being ignored due to games console, rip the plug out of the wall, you have been a rock to him, looking after your children must take it out of you...
Before I comment I would like to welcome you back, have not seen you here for a while.
I have no doubt that whatever you do, Bruce will love either, or maybe BOTH, and then you can swap places once you have got hard agin