So how to message a girl without sounding creepy and/or desperate ?

born_to_lose

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I am a 23-year-old who lives with my parents who is mentally retarded also and might be autistic. There is a female acquaintance who I liked since I was 12 but she seems to have a boyfriend plus I wrote weird crap to her online in the past. Furthermore, I have only really seen her once since we both graduated from high school, five years ago. Also, she lives an hour away. Sadly, I can't stop thinking of her no matter what and the only way to get this burden off my chest is by inquiring if she is single and let my feelings be known to her. I doubt I would win her. Like every girl, she is obviously out of my league. I am ugly as sin & have no flawless beard/body-hair or perfectly chiseled muscles. I never had a kiss and never had a date. The only time I had sex was with a prostitute who seems to want to get it over with as soon as possible, probably because she finds me repulsive like all women. I know I am pathetic but be nice and please help.
I even adjusted my worldviews and some interest partially for her
 
Don't ask them what they are wearing or whether they are home alone. Be more interesting than 'Hi' 'Hello' How are you'

This is really unrealistic as you have only seen her once since high school and you aren't close. At all. So she isn't going to magically have feelings for you and you can't possible have feelings for her either because you don't really know her anymore, you just think she's pretty and she doesn't owe you anything because of it.

Also confidence matters and spending most of this post degrading yourself isn't going to win anybody over either you just have to move on and meet people IRL.
 
Not to mention the fact that she has a boyfriend. You just aren't going to get everything you want in life even if you're rich or attractive or whatever.
 
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From personal experience, the best way to go about getting her to notice you is to make yourself the best you that you can be. Start with personal hygiene and grooming. Then work on diet and exercise. All of these are free to make yourself better and the more you work, the better you are becoming and the more confident you will be. That is truly what I look for is a guy who is confident without arrogance. Dressing well is key but costly, so focus on bettering you and you will find that women will be drawn to you, and she may become a faded memory.
 
I fail to see how these are able to answer the question asked "how to message a girl without sounding creepy and/or desperate"
 
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